Instant gratification

Are you addicted to instant gratification?

By The Stoic Strength Coach

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With the world at our fingertips through our glaring blue distraction, one cannot help but tumble into instant gratification addiction. Like it or not, this is the present-day realm we live in; everyone craves that quick fix, that hit of dopamine. Unfortunately, the concern with instant gratification or the “quick fix” is that we get pulled into the result, looking for the hit and not focusing on the process.

Unfortunately, the concern with instant gratification or the “quick fix” is that we get pulled into the result, looking for the hit and not focusing on the process.

That secret formula, the trick, the shortcuts, everyone asks for them.

But why?

We have gotten so used to having everything now and we are not willing to embrace the process, ok, yes, it will be difficult and might take longer than expected, but if you accept the process as a learning opportunity, you will gain so much more.

So whatever journey you are on in life, be it professional or personal, be sure to sit back and enjoy the ride as lots can be learned on the way. 

Food for thought. Till next time, Stay Stoic,

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The Paradox of being connected

Being connected

We are currently living in a hyperconnected world, a world in which nobody has ever seen before. We have everything at our fingertips and can contact anyone from around the world.

Sounds good?

Well, not really, as we are superficially connected online with our “friends” and are more isolated than ever. Today’s struggle with isolation links to addiction, violence, and depression. The World health organisation has reported that more people kill themselves than die from all wars and natural disasters.

we are superficially connected online with our “friends” and are more isolated than ever.

So get off the online communities and out into the real ones. It may help you feel better.

Food for thought. Till next time, Stay Stoic,

SSC

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Virtual Overload

Are you getting your daily dose of non screen time?

Screens are everywhere, and since this pandemic has kicked us off our high chairs, the use of virtual meetings and chats have only increased and become the norm. Are you feeling the drain yet? Indeed you have at one stage or another. Before we go on, we need to bear in mind that the use of screens is not exactly a big thing; it is HOW we use them is the issue.

Here are a few tips I’m trying to implement in my life at the moment

  • Limit screen use 60 mins before bedtime 
  • Select one day in which you try to stay away from all big screens such as tv and laptops (Weekends might be suited for this)
  • Keep your phone in another room at night time and limit its use within 30 minutes of getting up every morning.
  • Turn off all app notifications that are not necessary (which is the majority of them!). Doing so will limit the number of times you hear the ‘bing’, reducing the urge to look at your phone

I hope this helps to reduce your virtual overload!

Food for thought.

Till next time, Stay Stoic,

SSC

Are you unfollowing the crowd?

How many social profiles are you following?

200, 500, 1000, 10,000 – How many?

Up to recently, I was following over 1000 Twitter profiles to bring me ‘value’, although I wasn’t seeing 99% of them due to the ‘algorithm‘. Therefore recently, I decluttered my following list, and now it sits around 100. And yes, some might say that’s still too much, but it’s a slow process!

So ask yourself the following question – Are the people you follow on social media providing you value? If not, then why are you following them and letting them have access to you 24/7?

Don’t get me wrong, as social media has done wonders for our society, but again it is how you use it?. So if that particular individual is not providing you value, then just ‘Unfollow’. The idea of social media is to connect us positively and not negatively affect us. If a particular person is having a negative influence on you, you know what to do.

Food for thought.

Till next time, Stay Stoic,

SSC

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Social Media Misuse

Everyone uses it, but what do they use it for?

  • For connection?
  • For Ideas?
  • For Learning?
  • For Entertainment?
  • For Inspiration?

Or are you using it for comparison, to pass the time away, or so you don’t have to do that important job you keep putting off?

Again are you using for good or not so good?

Food for thought.

Till next time, Stay Stoic,

SSC

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Is social media a positive or negative influence?

Now, this post will open a can of worms, which can lead to many discussions, but ultimately the question boils down to ‘Are you using social media to your advantage to enhance your life’ or are you using to get away from life for a bit. Furthermore, before I go any further, I would like to say that I believe there is a place for social media in our personal and professional lives, but it is how you use it the tricky part.

An excellent book by Cal Newport called ‘Digital Minimalism’ has opened my eyes in regards to this topic. Cal pointed out that the average modern user spends around 2 hours per day on social media, and other related messaging services. This idea of zoning out and mindless swiping being the main culprit.

“Humans are not wired to be constantly wired” – Cal Newport

Cal recommends a digital declutter – a 30-day detox off social media (all optional technologies), and try to reconnect with other activities and behaviors which one would find satisfying and meaningful. After 30 days, he recommends gradually implementing some of these optional technologies back into your every day and determine if it brings you value.

You now may tell yourself – ‘I’m not on it that long, it is only a few minutes a day’ so I do not need to detox. These devices have been built to be addictive and time-consuming, so you may be on it longer than you think. Could you be doing something else with your valuable time?

 So, you really need to ask yourself are you really only on it for ‘a few minutes’ or longer.

More of your time = More money in their pocket 

The point is, social media is not the problem; it is how you use it.

Food for thought.

Till next time, Stay Stoic,

SSC

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